You have undoubtedly heard the term “boundary” before, regardless of whether you have been in therapy for years or never sought professional help.
Many people don’t know what boundaries or the different types are. It is a psychology-based therapeutic term but has made its way into the mainstream lexicon.
How Do Boundaries Work?
A healthy relationship is about establishing and maintaining boundaries – with others and oneself. The lack of universal definitions may explain why boundaries are often misunderstood and misused. As a psychotherapist, I describe boundaries to my clients as a way we can love ourselves and other people simultaneously. I also tell them as a way to take care of themselves in a relationship.
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How Do You Set Healthy Boundaries?
A healthy boundary can take many forms, all of which help preserve your comfort in situations that may threaten it.
You can set a healthy boundary by only responding to non-urgent texts during certain hours. If the other person raises their voice, this might involve not participating in conversations. For instance, don’t engage in sexual contact on your first date.
Life Has Different Types Of Boundaries
The types of boundaries we use to set vary in different areas for most of us. It is possible to have healthy boundaries with co-workers or at work, porous borders in romantic relationships, rigid boundaries with family, or a mix of all three.
Context is also important because different cultures expect relationship expectations and human behavior to differ, affecting our boundaries.
What Is The Best Way To Set And Enforce Boundaries?
Setting boundaries can be challenging for some people because they fear they will appear rigid or rude. Preparation is critical when setting boundaries. Define and articulate your limit. Consult a therapist if you struggle.
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In What Ways Do Boundaries Differ?
- Physical
- Intellectual
- Emotional
- Sexual
- Material
- Time
No matter where you are or how you spend your time, these boundaries apply at work, socially, family-wise, or home.
Final Thoughts On Boundaries
We also need to acknowledge that sometimes we have a boundary after feeling icky about a situation, and that’s okay. Be clear about your boundaries, reinforce them, and change them.