It’s impossible to avoid getting influenced by messages about the dos and don’ts of relationships at all times in our lives. Some certain behaviors and choices are taboo and should be avoided at all costs to avoid destroying your relationship.
Although relationships aren’t one-size-fits-all, they can be tailored to fit your needs. Even if you and your partner sleep in different beds or take separate vacations, your relationship is not doomed.
Therapists shared which “taboo” relationship choices might be worth embracing when the circumstances are right.
Separate Beds For Sleeping
Couples who sleep apart are stigmatized and deemed a “sleep divorce.” Outsiders assume there is trouble in paradise or their sexual life is nonexistent. Both of those scenarios may be true for some couples, but they are not the only reasons people sleep separately. This setup can lead to a healthier relationship if both partners are happy.
Reminiscing About Past Romances
Many couples do not discuss their love lives before they get together. Their current partner might be threatened by it or find it too uncomfortable. Therapist Nicole Saunders, the owner of Therapy Charlotte, said discussing relationships shouldn’t be taboo. The experiences in our past have shaped the person we are today.
Engaging In Flirting With Others
Monogamous couples should be careful not to flirt in ways inconsistent with fidelity. Flirting with someone other than your current partner can indicate that you’re unfaithful or unhappy. Flirting with others, however, when done without the intent of infidelity, can ‘elevate’ your relationship.
Angrily Going To Bed
One of the oldest pieces of relationship advice is “Never go to bed angry.” If this works for you and your partner, then keep going. However, Saunders says resolving a conflict before bed is “unnecessary.” Working things out late when you’re tired and worked up can sometimes aggravate tension. A state of emotional flooding impairs essential skills like listening, processing information, and empathizing with your partner.