Preparing for a wedding involves more than just the day-of details like guest lists and venue choices. The most crucial aspect that should take precedence above all else is the strength of your relationship. Before saying “I do,” it’s vital to ensure that your bond is built to last. After all the festivities, marriage truly begins. Argie Allen-Wilson, Ph.D., and founder of F.A.I.T.H., emphasizes five things you should never do before walking down the aisle.
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Do Not Discuss Money
Money is a significant cause of conflict among couples. According to a survey, around one-third of adults report money as a source of relationship issues. Avoiding financial discussions can lead to costly consequences and even divorce. Argie Allen-Wilson, Ph.D., suggests couples identify their money-related similarities and differences and create agreements on handling finances.
Not To Discuss Children
Discussing the topic of children is crucial before getting married. According to Argie Allen-Wilson, Ph.D., it’s important to ask upfront and discuss whether to postpone the topic. If your partner has a firm stance on parenthood, don’t assume it will change after marriage. It’s essential to set clear expectations and have open discussions about parenting styles, especially in blended families.
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Avoid Going To Bed Angry
Arguments are standard in relationships, and taking a cooling-off period helps diffuse tensions. However, never go to bed angry. Allen-Wilson suggests bracketing emotions and focusing on positive aspects like cuddling or discussing the day. If more space is needed, a 24 to 48-hour timeout is acceptable, but remember to address the issue before bedtime.
Seeking Third-Party Opinions In Conflicts
When it comes to weddings, prioritize your partner’s voice over others. Seek advice from loved ones but set boundaries and make decisions together. Don’t let others dictate your choices; do what you want as a couple. It applies beyond the wedding day, with external opinions only from trusted confidantes who support your relationship.