To the New Mom in the Produce Aisle

I hope you don’t interpret our awkward eye contact as your screaming baby cried as me judging you inside my head. But, by the “I’m so sorry” look you gave me, I think it’s safe to assume you interpreted it that way.

Please don’t apologize to me, I’ve been there. I remember my daughter’s first meltdown as if it happened just minutes before your little one’s.

It happens to the best of us and I should warn you, this won’t be the last time you’ll experience the infamous grocery store meltdown.

New motherhood is hard. You’ve entered completely new territory and no matter how much you’ve researched and read, nothing can truly prepare you for the journey you are embarking on. Everybody said it would be this urreal amazing experience and it totally is, but what they don’t warn you about the grocery store tantrums or the seemingly endless crying that comes along with it.

Trying to impress everybody is impossible. There are always going to be that group of people who judge your every move: friends, family and strangers alike. The only person you need to impress is yourself (and sometimes your kid).

From one mama to another, it’s important not to spend too much time pondering on what people are saying or thinking about you. If you haven’t learned that yet, you will soon.

If you do happen to find someone giving you the “I’m totally judging you” stare, do me a favor and stare right back at them wild-eyed and borderline rabid. It’ll totally scare the hell out of them and I promise they’ll leave you alone. They’ll also think you’re totally insane, but at least you won’t have to deal with their flesh eating stares anymore.

I want you to know that I am right there with you. We have struggled the same struggles. We have experienced the same experiences. We’ve both endured the soul crushing stares and the ear burning whispers.

You are mama, and you are doing the best you can.

Keep on rockin’. from one mama to another.