‘Mean Girl’: How Parents Can Respond – And Why Boys May Be Just As Guilty

It can be devastating for a parent to realize that their child is a “mean girl” who bullies, excludes, or belittles others. While many may think of this behavior as primarily associated with girls, it’s important to remember that boys can also be guilty of such conduct. In either case, parents must intervene early on and provide the necessary support and guidance to help their child grow into a kind and empathetic individual.

So, what can parents do if they suspect their child is displaying mean behavior? The first step is to try to understand the reasons behind it. Dr. Barbara Greenberg, a clinical psychologist specializing in family and adolescent issues, notes that some children may engage in bullying because they have low self-esteem or seek attention. Others may have learned these behaviors from peers or even adults.

Once parents have identified the root cause, they can begin to take steps to address the behavior. Dr. Greenberg suggests that parents start by having an open and honest conversation with their children about their behavior, emphasizing the importance of treating others with respect and kindness. Additionally, parents should work with their child’s school to ensure that the behavior is not continuing in the classroom or on the playground.

But what if the child continues to behave meanly despite these efforts? Dr. Greenberg advises that parents seek the help of a mental health professional who can work with both the child and the family to address the behavior and provide support.

It is also essential for parents to remember that their child may be on the receiving end of bullying or exclusion. Dr. Rosalind Wiseman, author of “Queen Bees and Wannabes” – the book that inspired the movie “Mean Girls” – notes that bullying often stems from a desire to fit in or gain social status. Therefore, parents must create a supportive and inclusive home environment where their child feels valued and accepted.

The key to addressing mean behavior in children is to identify the root cause, have open and honest conversations, seek support when necessary, and create a supportive home environment. Parenting in this manner can help children develop into kind, empathetic individuals who are respectful of others and more inclusive.