We’re all social creatures, us humans, and so it makes perfect sense for us to compare ourselves against others around us. That’s psychology for you, and with today’s technologies, it’s easier than ever to learn about the stuff that other people say and do.
It might make sense, sure, but that doesn’t mean that it’s right—and it’s certainly not something that we should settle for. When you compare yourself to other people, you’re in a race to the bottom. (Even if it’s a comparison that makes you puff your chest out and feel better, smarter, faster… That’s bad news, too.)
Video blogger Kristina Kuzmic delved into this issue in a recent episode of her video series Truth Bomb Mom.
“You see these other moms, and they are put together,” she says. “They are seamlessly balancing work and family, they have it all figured out. They are smart and confident, they’re gorgeous and happy… You’re staring at them, and you’re just admiring them, and you can’t help but compare yourself to them and think, ‘Man, I want their life. I wanna be that perfect mom without a single care in the world.’”
“Here’s the truth, though,” Kristina continues. “Every single mom you have ever compared yourself to… she has her own struggles. You see this one little glimpse of her and assume her entire life is just bliss, but you don’t know what she deals with at home, alone, behind closed doors.
Nobody’s got this whole thing figured out. Nobody’s living a perfect life, because there isn’t such a thing as a perfect life, or a perfect parent, or a perfect anything.
Raising humans is exhausting, and if we can just realize that perfection is an illusion, and that every single parent struggles at times, then we can finally accept our flawed and imperfect life and know that we are not alone in this.”
“Instead of assuming that someone else’s path is smoother, instead of comparing yourself or even wishing you had their life, focus instead on being the mom who’s doing the best she can.”
“No matter how challenging and tiring life gets, you’re still here, taking care of your family. You might struggle, and sometimes, you might even fail—but you still get up, and you still keep going.
And that’s what makes you a great mom.”