Would you be surprised to learn that you may be subconsciously doing things that make you look like a jerk?
Consider that many language experts say that 80 percent of what you understand in a conversation is read through body language, not the words spoken, and you might not be so surprised.
Here are five body language blunders to avoid.
Crossing your arms may feel comfortable, but it can show to others that you might be feeling closed off. Even if you’re otherwise pleasant, the other person might still be left with the feeling that you put up a physical barrier between the two of you.
Slouching communicates that you’re disinterested in what’s going on and would rather be somewhere else. It will almost always be interpreted as a sign of disrespect.
Maintaining a good posture shows the other person that you’re interested in the conversation.
Avoiding Eye Contact
This one is kind of a no brainer, but you’d be surprised at how many people don’t realize they do it.
Avoiding eye contact immediately arouses suspicion, and can also indicate a lack of confidence and interest. Looking someone in the eye when you talk to them, on the other hand, communicates confidence.
If you stand too close to someone when you’re talking to them—generally closer than 1.5 feet—then you’re demonstrating that you have no awareness of personal space. This will not only make others uncomfortable when they’re around you, but it can sometimes even make them feel threatened.
Watching The Clock
This one is a personal pet peeve of mine.
If you’re watching the clock the entire time you’re speaking with a person, you are sending a clear message that you’d rather be somewhere else or you have something else to do rather than be with them. It’s disrespectful and rude.